Saturday, January 02, 2010

The Only Living Barbie In New York

The gift that arrived earlier this week was quite literally a brown paper package wrapped up in string. (The string in question was black and white, of course.) Inside it was a wonderful surprise from generous friends: the Barbie limited-edition book published in honor of Barbie's 50th anniversary last year by Assouline.

The 15-pound book, nestled in its own pink box, is filled with carefully styled photographs of the doll in spectacular clothes and settings, each glued to its page, and quotations about its subject. It is certainly the most extravagant volume I own. (The most extravagant volume I ever bought was an abridged second edition of Dr. Johnson's Dictionary, a gift to a grandiloquent ex.)

The inscription reads:"To the only real-life 'Barbie' we know!" Given my friends' range of glamorous, successful acquaintances, that's quite a compliment. So thank you, friends, on all counts.

I've previously discussed what Barbie and I have in common. Now, she has a big, beautiful book about herself, and I have the pleasure of looking at it.

The big, beautiful book about me? I'm just going to have to write it myself. And, as the great sage Hillel once said, "If not now, when?"

It's going to be quite a year.

Monday, December 14, 2009

The Accidental Playlist

I've been thinking a lot about playlists lately. They drive my music consumption, as I'm always putting together playlists for occasions, birthdays, parties - and as soundscapes for a run, a housecleaning, a seduction, a product idea. Recently, I was challenged to come up with one that described my personality, and I apparently succeeded.

But I'm generally working with my own music. This weekend, though, I had the opportunity to use someone else's library and to create a "found" playlist. The music collection was Virgin America's from JFK to SFO. The methodology was alphabetical, choosing a song per artist I wanted to listen to. The results: surprisingly good, given my absurdly eclectic tastes. Amazing how excellent Led Zeppelin's "All of My Love" sounds after Puccini's "Mi chiamano Mimi" from La Bohème - and how appropriate it is lyrically. Or hearing Little Walter's "Nobody but You" segue into Louis Armstrong"s "What a Wonderful World" into Lyle Lovett's "Who Loves You Better?" And that's just the Ls.

It's like having just a few odds and ends in your fridge and realizing they'll make a great meal. Very satisfying.    

Monday, November 09, 2009

Those Romantic Young Boys

Saturday night I saw Bruce Springsteen and the E Street Band at Madison Square Garden, a spectacular show as always, made even better with the inclusion of The Wild, the Innocent and the E Street Shuffle played all the way through for the first time. That 1973 album, which he introduced by referring to his “romantic ideas about New York,” is sonically rich, requiring the addition of a horn and string section to the usual lineup. It was a particularly poignant choice for the first night of the last New York City stand of a lengthy tour, over in just seven more shows, that included the deaths of longtime E Street Band member Danny Federici and roadie (and Bruce's cousin) Lenny Sullivan, many appearances on behalf of Barack Obama, and Bruce’s 60th birthday.

I brought a longtime friend with me, an incredibly talented woman who’s been feeling stuck about where to go next and what to do. I thought it would inspire her to see a guy who clearly still loves what he does, and who I think would still be doing it even if he weren’t selling out arenas and stadiums every night. And it had its intended effect on her. But it also made me think about what it must be like to devote 40 years to the pursuit of what you love to do, working with the same group of people (including your wife), and to achieve a level of success where you can also work with just about anyone you want. (An example: at Saturday’s show, Elvis Costello – another favorite of mine - joined the band onstage for an energetic closing rendition of “Your Love Is Lifting Me Higher.”)

As I watched the show, I thought about a photo I'd seen at the recent opening of the Who Shot Rock and Roll? exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum. It's a shot of Bruce, in his early 20s, standing in front of what looks like a small-town record store, surrounded by adorable and adoring high school girls in short skirts and knee socks. He was, of course, grinning broadly, but no more so than he was the other night, and probably for many of the same reasons.

In that same exhibit, and in the book of the same name, my friend Ed Caraeff tells the story of how he shot what's been called "the greatest rock 'n roll photo of all time," at 17, with the last few shots of his last roll of film. To see him with a camera is to understand how much he loves to capture what he sees. Yet after considerable success creating images, he decided he also loved to create food, and moved on.

Do the same thing masterfully your whole life, or do something different and equally well - those are two different, and instructive, ways to grow up. At this point, the likelihood of me doing anything for the next 40 years is low. And I do enjoy what I do most of the time. But it’s been my mission for the past few months to figure out how to consistently do what I love and truly love what I do. Seeing Bruce Springsteen crowdsurfing, exuberantly, was a good reminder why.


(Post title from “Incident on 57th Street.” But you knew that. Didn’t you?)

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

So It's Root, Root, Root For The Home Team


I'm only sorry it took me so long to think of this. Go Yankees!

Friday, October 16, 2009

The Other "C" Word

Continuing the theme of my last post: I want to say that I categorically hate the term "cougar" as applied to women over 35. For one thing, it implies that women interested in younger men must of necessity pursue them aggressively. I have not found that to be the case; in fact, the charmer 17 years my junior whose company I enjoyed for quite a while chased me. That was my biggest age gap in that direction, but come to think of it, the man 32 years my senior (the ">" record) who briefly swept me off my feet when I was 19 chased me too.

Not that I'm averse to being the chaser; I've done it many times, especially with crushes, though with mixed results. And I'm pleased that studies quoted by the Times Thursday show that more women are dating and marrying younger men - why should we limit ourselves? (My preferred range is 15 years older or younger - then you have at least some cultural references in common.)

But every time I see that "c" word, usually attached to an over-Botoxed blonde in leopard-print spandex and real estate, it conjures up a big, scary pussy. And that doesn't sound at all appealing. Or accurate.



(The Marvelettes and "Hunter Gets Captured By The Game," written by Smokey Robinson, behind footage from Blow-Up - which was based on a story by Julio Cortázar. As that noted wearer of leopard print Cindy Adams would say, who else would tell you these things?)

Monday, October 12, 2009

Mad, Bad and Dangerous to Know

Scene: A packed, invitation-only hip-hop event in Manhattan, with many boldface names both on the stage and off it.

Dramatis personae:
An affable, inebriated twenty-something, surrounded by his posse
Me, wearing a sleeveless, curve-hugging stretch-wool Dolce & Gabbana dress, vintage Peter Fox suede heels and very red lipstick

He (slurring): Heeey, can I ask you something?

Me: Sure.

He: Well... I mean, you're older, right?

Me (raised eyebrows*): Uh, yeah.

He: Because you're really classy. And you were probably always classy. But I bet, when you were younger, you were dangerous.

Me (smiling): Oh, honey, I still am!

He (sheepishly): That's what I meant.

Exeunt omnes.


*note: no Botox = I still can


Thursday, October 01, 2009

Fathers, Be Good To Your Daughters

I greatly admire Roman Polanski's films, but I had largely forgotten the details of the 1977 charges brought against him that caused him to flee the U.S. Now, just thinking about him is starting to nauseate me, for most of the same reasons that I shed no tears for Michael Jackson and can no longer listen to his music without revulsion.

I am no prude, nor would I have been nominated for sainthood as a teenager, and I'm not immune to the heady charms of being plied with champagne and photographed. But I keep putting myself in 13-year-old Samantha Gailey's shoes (I've been in ones like them, and they were Kork-Ease). She's older now than Polanski was when he took advantage of her naive ambitions, and I'm willing to bet that for the past three decades, she's remembered some moment from that "photo session for French Vogue" almost every day.

Meanwhile, Polanski now has a teenage daughter with ambitions of her own. I wonder if that's changed his perspective; what does he tell her about how to protect herself? And how can the man who directed this scene not understand or be remorseful for causing long-lasting harm to someone else's daughter?



(Polanski's character in Chinatown gave Nicholson's character that scar on his nose, by the way.)